Kad mums ir nepiepildītas vajadzības bērnībā vai notiek traumatizējošas pieredzes, mēs kā bērni piedzīvojam sāpīgas emocijas. Ja mums iztrūkst emocionālā klātesamība un drošības sajūta, ko sniegtu mīloši, uzticami, klātesoši vecāki (vai citas piesaistes personas), tad šīs emocijas, sāpes un stress paliek mūsos - tas netiek atbrīvots.

Kad mēs runājam par traumām, un šai gadījumā bērnības traumām, tad mums jāpatur prātā, ka trauma ir nevis tas notikums, kas noticis, bet tas, kas noticis mūsos tā notikuma rezultā. Notikums var būt mirklīgs, bet tā ietekme var būt daudzu gadu un dekāžu garumā.

Proti, nervu sistēma turpina glabāt šo traumatisko stresu un apspiestās emocijas, tā rezultātās veidojot dažādus neveselīgus paternus, kas turpina radīt hronisku stresu cilvēka dzīvē.

Nervu sistēma paliek izdzīvošanas stāvoklī attiecībā uz to dzīves aspektu, gatava jebkurā brīdī pasargāt tevi, lai atkal neatkārtojas tās pieredzētās sāpes. 

Bet šāda “sliktākā scenārija ekspektācija”  realitāte rada pretējo - visu laiku tiek aktivizēta stresa atbildes reakcija, pat tad, kad tas nav nepieciešams.

Bērns, kura emocijas netiek pieņemtas, iemācās tās apspiest - izstumt ārpus savas apzinātās pieredzes. Bet tas nenozīmē, ka viņš pārstāj tās just. Emocionālais stress nervu sistēmā, ķermenī tik un tā paliek un tiek aktivizēts, ikreiz, kad šai emocijai dabiski vajadzētu parādīties. Bērns kļūst atvienots no tā, ka jūt un apzinās šo emociju. Jeb arī tiklīdz tā tiek piefiksēta, tā tiek apspiesta kā nepieņemama.

This blog post will be about eight seemingly good habits (tendencies, behaviors, mindsets) that are actually hurting us in the long term. They're harming our personal and professional lives, happiness, and health.

Some of these behaviors are indeed praise-worthy, but at the level they are a character of a lot of the society, they have lost the healthy balance and become hurtful.

For many years I also felt like these tendencies were something to strive for, and I tried to embody them, but through the years, I have realized how they have been more of a self-sabotage that is blocking me from true fulfillment and success than beneficial tools to reach goals.

We have spent so much time with this obsessive form of thinking - worrying - that we don't even notice anymore how we are engaging in it again. We believe it is our normal way of being.

Procrastination is not being lazy. Procrastination is when you postpone something you know you should be doing because you choose to do other seemingly important tasks instead.

Self-doubt is a lack of belief in your own abilities and in who you are. It is based on previous negative experiences that have made you doubt your worth. It undermines your potential and makes you procrastinate on the necessary action towards your goals.

Overthinking is a state that can suck energy out of you and paralyzes your actions. Overthinking leads you nowhere, because it keeps you worrying and fearing the outcomes.

How to overcome perfectionism. Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons why people procrastinate. Once you learn how to overcome perfectionism, you will increase your productivity and efficieny hundredfold.

Working on my mindset to get rid of limiting beliefs has made me much smarter and wiser than all that theoretical knowledge I was taught in school.

These habits hold you back not only in business, but also in life. You can have the best strategies for success in the world, but if you lack the right mindset, your results will still be very limited.

Have you been trying to use self-talk or positive affirmations, but have not seen yet the results you thought they would bring? Here is what you might be doing wrong.

Trying to change things only on a behavioral level does not work. You need to rewire your subconscious brain - deal with your limiting beliefs.

The reason why you are not motivated is not the lack of discipline, but the lack of vision and a clear “why” you do what you do.

The key to rewire your brain and change your experiences is to not only think yourself into a new experience but also to feel yourself into it.

What to do if you feel stuck in life? Feeling stuck is nothing bad, in fact, it is a healthy sign that you are ready for some changes in your life.

What is the most important morning habit for success and what are some subtle scientific reasons why to make this a habit a non-negotiable of your morning routine?

Hustle smarter instead of harder. Although it is important always to work hard, are you really making the best out of your hard work? Are you being consistent with your priorities and vision?

Simple techniques to avoid burnout, prioritize tasks, and accomplish more of the important things.